Have you ever had someone in your life who was just so toxic that you knew things would never get better? It’s easy to feel hopeless when we are surrounded by people who constantly bring us down. In this blog post, I’m going to share with you 6 steps to help cut off contact with a toxic person.
Step One: Figure Out Who the Toxic Person is
Is it a coworker, best friend, partner? Is this person your mother or sister? Your daughter or son? It’s important to pinpoint who they are and what role they play in your life. This will help you identify specific behaviors that might be causing you stress.
If the toxic person is a coworker, you may be dealing with behaviors such as being rude and not following through on promises. If they are your partner or ex-partner, the toxic behavior might be more emotional in nature like lying to you or cheating on you.
Step Two: Identify the Behaviors that are Causing You Stress
Do they continuously criticize you? Are they always telling you how to act and what to do? Do they say hurtful things without thinking about how it might affect others? Figure out what these behaviors look like in your life. This will give you a better understanding of what you need to do next.
Not all behaviors are the same so you need to figure out what is causing you stress. This will help you determine the specific behaviors that affect your life and what to do about them.
Step Three: Determine How These Behaviors Affect Your Life and What You Can Do to Reduce Their Impact
Think about how these behaviors affect your day-to-day life. Being criticized by someone close to you can make us feel like we’re never doing anything right or good enough, or it can make us feel like we’re not good enough as a person. When someone is constantly telling you how to act and what to do, they take away your autonomy (the ability to make choices for yourself).
They may say hurtful things without thinking about how it might affect others or use words that are offensive. It’s important to think about how these behaviors may be affecting your life so you can create a plan for cutting off contact.
Step Four: Create A Plan For Cutting Off Contact With This Person, Including Tips On How To Avoid Them In Public Or Online
When we are considering ending relationships with people who are toxic to us, it is important for our mental health and quality of life to have a plan for how we will avoid them. This includes not seeing them in public or online, unfollowing people who make you feel bad about yourself on social media and avoiding reading the news so that it doesn’t trigger negative emotions.
Tips on how to avoid toxic people in public include not taking the elevator, going to a different store or restaurant, and changing your route for walks at home. Online tips include unfollowing people on social media who make you feel bad about yourself or using blocking apps like UnFriendship.
Step Five: Understand That It Will Be Difficult In The Moment But Will Make You Happier In The Long Run If Done Correctly
It can be difficult to cut off contact with toxic people, especially if we are not used to doing so. This is because they may try to manipulate us by playing the victim or telling us that we don’t care about them anymore. It’s important for you to remember these things when you are feeling tempted to give in.
The reason why being cut off from toxic people can make us happier, in the long run, is because they are constantly bringing us down and making it difficult for us to be our best selves. By no longer having contact with them, we will have more time and energy to focus on things that are important to you.
Step Six: Expect Some Backlash From Other People – Don’t Take It Personally Because They’re Just Projecting Their Own Struggles Onto You
When we make changes, whether they are big or small, other people may react by telling us that we shouldn’t change and that our way is wrong. They might tell us that we are selfish or irresponsible and don’t care about them anymore, but this is more about their struggles than our own. It’s important for you to remember these things when you feel like giving in because of the backlash from other people.
How to ignore the negative backlash from other people:
- Remind yourself that it’s not about you and reflect on why they are doing this before responding.
- Realize that what someone else says to us doesn’t have anything to do with who we really are; it has more to do with how they view themselves or their own issues. They might be projecting their own struggles onto you.
- Do what makes YOU happy and don’t worry about what everyone else thinks – it’s your life, not theirs. You can always apologize later if they are offended by something you’ve done or said to them in the past that wasn’t intentional on your part.
Step Seven: Try To Find The Positive
When we are ending a relationship with toxic people, it’s important to find the positive in this experience. It might be that you have an opportunity for self-growth because of how much time and energy they took from us or created more opportunities for yourself when your time freed up. It’s important not to dwell on the negative aspects of this change and instead focus on what you’ve gained from it.
In conclusion, ending relationships with toxic people can be difficult, but it is also necessary if we want to live happier and healthier lives. By identifying the behaviors that trigger us and then creating a plan for cutting off contact, we are taking control of our mental health by no longer letting someone else dictate how we feel about ourselves.